I've decided to repost this and make it global for a while since it seems we still are having some problems with the message box. The message box is NOT to be used as advertising your blogs or forums or friends. Please respect this and use the pm, threads or other means if want to share your site information. As I mentioned...if this is bought up in a basic conversation inside one of the threads I have no problem...but the message box is just that and not a box for commercialization. I'd appreciate your support regarding this.
If your reason for coming to Cstyles is to promote your own sites and try to move members, you could face being banned... permanently.
All I ask is that you respect Cstyles and respect it's members and guest.
I speak out on this because I do find it offensive and quite frankly extremely rude to myself as well as to other members.
I try to run this site, (with the serious aid of Eva & Evie as well as several members) as smoothly as possible. However that can't be done when there are some here with no other intention than to promote their sites while ignoring members who are here trying to engage in simple conversation.
It was bought to my attention a conversation that had taken place in the message box which truly disturbed me as well as hurt me. There were a couple of members of Cstyles in this box speaking of going to another 'new' site while blatantly ignoring a member who was trying their best to engage them in conversation.
Now I don't monitor the message box on a regular, I pop in with a message or funny from time to time, but this totally amazed me that someone could be as rude as to just ignore another members attempt to conversate while promoting another site. I was then told that this person (I will not mention names) entered the box was also ignored while the other site was being promoted.
Maybe some may not think this is rude or even an issue, but put yourselves in my shoes. I've worked my butt off maintaining this site, and as I mentioned above, I don't/can't do it alone. I've paid money into this 'free' site (nothing is free if you want any kind of quality), I've cried over this site and laughed at the many funny things and saying's and pics that are shared on this site. I will not just sit back and let someone not only disrespect me, but disrespect the other staff who work just as hard at times even HARDER than I do, nor the many members who come here daily and contribute their hard work, time, finds and conversation to only have someone come here and USE this site while being out and out rude to it's members.
In all fairness...do it the right way. Go gain your members and guests the same way many other forums do/did. Market your site, or your friends sites the honest way and not by trekking into another persons site and try to maneuver others away.
I started this site with 1 member...myself and I worked my butt off to get this site attention, members and guest. I did not gain any of this overnight...it has been just over a year and we still have plenty of growing room. And I did not do it alone. It was a single contest on ts3 that bought in many of our older members. The contest host was Akasha and she asked if she could hold her contest here instead of ts3 because ts3 kept having all kinds of problems. I agreed eagerly and the story goes on from there. With that...I've had many creators join, chatty members who throughly engage the site as well members who are just eager to lend a hand or offer a find.
We have also had several awesome contest ourselves!
I have things in store for Cstyles and it's many members and guests and I just cannot sit idly by and watch someone try to cause any friction or disruption to it.
I have NO problem with siggies, please...by all means put your siggies up, most of them are very cute, quite decorative and bring a bit of 'pizazz' to the threads. If someone asks you about your siggy...please don't hesitate to tell them about it whether it's just a funny siggy or your site or a friends site or magazine...whatever. I just can't tolerate out and out rudenesss of 'trolling' the message box to pitch your sites or your friends. I don't mind if you talk about other sites within the threads...just don't take over the message box or chat boxes either to gain attention to your site or a friends. Talk about whatever you want in the chat boxes...just don't use them for promotion.
A nice mention is one thing...to take over the box with a conversation regarding a totally different site is another.
I ask my Global Mod, EvaTer, and my Administrative Assistant Evie to take action if they come across any behavior like this as well as members feel free to contact me if you see any of this type of behavior happening. Please make sure you have proof if you come to me with this information.
Thanks for reading this extremely long thread, I've sat on this for awhile and just couldn't let it just go.
Other than this... I hope and pray I have not offended anyone unjustly.
I'm a patient person, very trusting and even more forgiving so for me...it's done. I won't open this door anymore unless needed.
I huggles you all!! Even the naughty ones...just respect me and others here on Cstyles is all I ask from youl
I won't take any kind of action because this was bought to me minus evidence, but I trust this persons word. No names were revealed to me...just the action itself.
As I said...discuss these things...talk about them...praise them if you want..just inside the threads is all I ask. This site is all about sharing, when someone's custom content is displayed, or Sim it is always with a link back to that persons blog/forum or website. We all promote each other openly and fairly.
Don't be afeared (yes...I made up that word...I kind of like it and it makes 2 points instead of one...whacha think...Webster's dictionary maybe?) to talk, discuss even give directions to another site...please please please...keep things as are they are...it's only this one thing that I ask you not to do.
He just makes my belly button smilez!